Abah berwasiat supaya kubur abah dan mak jangan dijadikan mangsa
"penebus rasa bersalah" anak-anak.
Maksudnya begini:
Semasa ibu dan bapa masih hidup, anak-anak mengabaikan tanggungjawab mereka atas pelbagai alasan (sila rujuk kitab-kitab muktabar tentang tanggungjawab anak terhadap ibubapa) - alasan sibuk dengan urusan dunia yang tak akan habis sampai bila-bila, sibuk dengan urusan anak,
isteri/suami masing-masing, sibuk dengan itu dan ini, hingga lah "tiba-tiba" salah seorang atau kedua-dua ibubapa mereka diperintah Allah untuk kembali kepadaNya... ..
(sebenarnya tak ade kematian yang mengejut atau tiba-tiba - setiap kematian itu telah dirancang Allah lama sebelum manusia itu dijadikanNya. ... "tiba-tiba" itu hanya "tuduhan" manusia kerana bukankah kita rasa seronok hidup!
Malahan pujangga dengan angkuhnya mendeklamasikan "aku mahu hidup 1,000 tahun lagi!)...
Dalam kesedihan kerana kematian mereka, timbul lah rasa bersalah si anak kerana telah mengabaikan mereka semasa hayat, maka dilakukanlah perkara-perkara seperti berikut:
1. upah orang bacakan Al Quran 40 hari, 40 malam (anak tidak pulak membacanya kerana maklum lah sibuk belaka....)
2. upah orang bina kubur yang tercantik dan terhebat ("mak/abah memang patut diberi penghargaan ini kerana jasa mereka kepada aku"...)
3. tabur berbagai-bagai bunga atas kubur ("aku sayangkan mak/abah"...walhal semasa hidup mereka, sekuntum bunga pun tidak pernah dihadiahkan! )
4. cetak kitab Yaasin (siap tulis kat kulit depan "sempena kematian ibu/bapaku tersayang... .") dan edarkan kepada masjid - macamlah surau dan masjid tak cukup-cukup kitab Yaasin
5. buat kenduri panggil "orang masjid" bacakan doa tahlil (maklum lah, anak tak sempat mendoakan ibubapanya. lagi pun "doa orang masjid ni lebih berkat"....)
6. buat pelbagai kenduri "hari peringatan ke-3, ke-7, tahun ke-47....." kematian ibubapa
7. sedekah pisang kat masjid......
8.. buat upah umrah setiap tahun (walhal dulu semasa hayat mereka, langsung "takde bajet nak hantar mak/abah gi umrah"; lagi pun keperluan umrah itu hanya sekali sepanjang hayat sahaja!)
Selepas itu boleh lah si anak tidur lena dan sempat pula membidas adik beradik lain dengan berkata, "aku dah tunaikan tanggungjawab aku pada bapak/mak. Kau tak buat ke?" Abah panggil semua ini sebagai "sindrom penebus rasa bersalah"- kerana "dulu aku tak buat semua itu, maka sekarang aku dah buat semua ini, jadi aku tak bersalah lagi!".....
Kalau inilah yang bakal terjadi kepada abah dan mak, maka abah berwasiat di sini, TAK PAYAH LAH anak-anak abah bersusah payah membuat pelbagai justifikasi dengan sindrom penebus rasa bersalah.... . memadai lah diselitkan satu ayat yang tak sampai satu nafas nak menyebutnya -
"Ya Allah, ampunkan lah ibu bapa ku".
Takde belanja wang ringgit, tak payah cari orang, tak payah susahkan diri.
Sempurnakan solat (wajib untuk penebus diri sendiri masing-masing) dan doa lah meminta apa-apa dari Allah (untuk mendapat penebus diri sendiri masing-masing) dan selitkan lah ayat diatas (sebagai penebus diri sendiri dan untuk keselamatan ibubapa di alam barzah dan alam akhirat).
Abah doakan apa-apa amal jariah yang abah dan mak lakukan dan apa-apa ilmu bermanfaat yang abah dan mak ajarkan kepada sesiapa pun dan diamalkannya - agar semua ini diterima Allah sebagi pelaburan kami di akhirat.
Semoga semua anak-anak yang lahir dari sulbi kami menyempurnakan janji-janji mereka kepada Allah untuk menjadi hamba-hambaNya yang beramal soleh.
Itu lah 3 harta yang akan mengiringi kami ke kubur dan tinggal kekal menemani kami sehingga kiamat...... ..
Ambil iktibar dari lampiran di bawah.
Larangan dari Rasulullah shallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam: Dari Jabir radhiyallahu 'anhu, dia berkata, "Rasulullah shallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam telah melarang kuburan dikapur (di simen), dijadikan tempat duduk, dan juga didirikan bangunan diatasnya.."
(Hadith Riwayat Imam Muslim)
Dan membawa bunga-bungaan / jambak-jambak bunga dan seumpamanya bersama jenazah adalah diharamkan yang telah menular di kalangan orang-orang Islam kerana mengikuti adat-adat orang kafir dan Melayu kunoh dalam upacara-upacara jenazah mereka.
Juga kerana perbuatan tersebut boleh mensia-siakan harta tanpa faedah dan memberi makna bermegah-megah dan berbangga.
Manakala hukumnya adalah haram jika kubur dibina menggunakan marmar (marble) dan seumpamanya, kerana amat berlawanan dengan ajaran Rasulullah shallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, juga kerana terdapat pembaziran harta yang ditegah syarak serta terdapatsifat bermegah dan menunjuk yang amat dimurkai Allah subhanahuwata' ala.
Ali bin Abi Talib radhiyallahu 'anhu berkata kepada Abi Hayyaj Al-Asadi,
"Tidakkah kamu mahu aku utuskan kamu untuk melakukan perkara yang aku diutuskan oleh Rasulullah untuk melakukan? Kamu hendaklah meruntuhkan semua berhala dan meratakan semua kubur yang ditinggikan orang."
(Hadith Riwayat Imam Muslim)
P/s- So jangan la jadi anak yang tidak kenang budi...Selalu kata tak sempat lah...apa lah...tapi buat benda-benda pelik banyak masa...esok kita pun akan ada zuriat dan hidup ni mcm roda gak...lu buat orang so lu kena la plak...moral of the story lu piker la sendiri bagi yg masih ada mak bapak tuh termasuk la gua gak masih belum terlambat untuk dimulakan...
Subhanallah! !!
An American Millionaire Becomes Muslim!
An American Millionaire Who Was Also Michael Jackson's Lawyer Becomes Muslim
An American millionaire, Mark Shaffer declared his Islam in Saudi Arabia on Saturday, 17th October 2009. Mark was at that time on a holiday in Saudi Arabia to visit some famous cities like Riyadh, Abha and Jeddah for 10 days.
Mark is a well-known millionaire and also a practiced lawyer in Los Angeles, specializing in cases of civil laws. The last big case he handled was the case of the famous American pop singer, Michael Jackson, a week before he passed away.
A tourist guide who accompanied Mark for 10 days in Saudi Arabia, Dhawi Ben Nashir told: Since he set foot for the first time in Saudi Arabia, Mark already started to ask question about Islam and Solat. As soon as he arrived in Saudi, Mark stayed in Riyadh for two days. While in Riyadh, Mark was very interested in Islam. After moving to Najran, we went to Abha and Al-Ula. There, his fascination on Islam grew more obvious, especially the time when we ventured out into the desert.
Mark was amazed to see three Saudi youths who were in our group in Al-Ula, performing solat in the expanse of the very wide desert. A very fantastic panorama indeed.
After two days in Al-Ula, we went to Al-Juf. As soon as we arrived in Al-Juf, Mark asked if I could get him some books on Islam. I then obtained some books on Islam for him. Mark read all those books. The next morning, he asked me to teach him how to perform solat. I then taught him how to pray and take wudhu (ablution). Then, he joined me and performed solat beside me.
After solat, Mark told me that he felt peace in his soul. On Thursday afternoon, we left Al-Ula heading for Jeddah. He looked very serious throughout the journey reading those books about Islam. On Friday morning, we visited the old town of Jeddah. Before the time for the Friday prayer approached, we went back to the hotel and I excused myself to go for the Friday prayer. Then, Mark told me: I would like to join you for the Friday prayer so that I can witness myself how the Friday prayer is like. So I answered: welcome…
We then went to a masjid which was not far from the hotel where we stayed in Jeddah. Since we were quite late, I and many otherjamaah had to pray outside, as the number of jamaah was overflowing. I could see Mark observing the jamaah, especially after the Friday prayer was completed, when everybody was shaking hands and embracing each other with radiant and happy faces. Mark was very impressed with what he saw.
When we return to the hotel, Mark suddenly told me that he wanted to become a Muslim. So I said to him: Please have a shower first. After Mark took the shower, I guided him in saying the kalimah of shahadah (declaration of faith) and then he prayed two rakaah. Later on, Mark expressed his desire to visit the Masjidil Haram in Makkah and perform solat there before leaving Saudi Arabia.
In order to fulfill his wish, we went to the Da’wah and Irshad office in the area of Al-Hamro’, Jeddah, to obtain a formal proof of his conversion to Islam, so that he would be allowed to enter the city of Makkah and Masjidil Haram. Then, Mark was given a temporary certificate of his conversion to Islam. As a number of group members who participated in Mark’s visit to Saudi Arabia had to go back to America on Saturday afternoon, Al-Hamdulillah, Ustadz Muhammad Turkistani was willing to send Mark to the Holy Land of Makkah that same morning.
Regarding Mark’s visit to Masjidil Haram, Ustadz Muhammad Turkistani narrated: After Mark obtained his temporary certificate, we straight away departed heading for the noble Masjidil Haram. When he witnessed the Masjidil Haram, he face looked radiant and it emanated an extraordinary happiness. When we entered the Masjidil Haram and witnessed the Ka’bah for ourselves, his happiness increased. By Allah, I could not express that scene with words. After performing the tawaf around the noble Ka’bah, we performed the sunnah solat and went out of Masjidil Haram. I could see Mark very reluctantly wanting to leave Masjidil Haram.
After Mark declared his Islamic faith, he had the chance to express his happiness in Al-Riyadh Newspaper saying: I could not express my feeling at this time but I am being reborn and my life has just started… then he added: I am very happy. This happiness that I am feeling could not be expressed in words especially when I visited the Masjidil Haram and noble Ka’bah.
Regarding his next step after his conversion to Islam, Mark explained: I will learn more about Islam, I will delve deeper into this religion of Allah (Islam) and come back to Saudi Arabia to perform the Hajj.
As to what impelled him into converting to Islam, Mark explained: I have already had information about Islam, but it was very limited. When I visited Saudi Arabia and personally witnessed the Muslims there, and saw how they performed the solat, I felt a very strong drive to know more about Islam. When I read true informations about Islam, I became confident that Islam is a religion of haq (truth).
Sunday morning, 18th October 2009, Mark left the Airport of KingAbdul Aziz Jeddah heading for America. When filling in the immigration form before leaving Jeddah, Mark wrote ISLAM as his religion.
Farewell Mark… May Allah bless you and make you an obedient Muslim and a Da’i who would invite the American society to benefit from the happiness of being Muslims, just as how you have felt because only Islam could save mankind in this world, as well as in theakhirah later… Ameen. (fj/eramuslim)
